Resilience

Two weeks ago I touched on resilience.

As I suggested earlier, resilience can be understood as somebody’s attitude towards challenges, tragedies or daily nuisance which allows the person to go through difficult situations without long-term negative consequences.

It does not mean that a resilient person is unaffected by the challenges of life or who takes a failure with a laugh.

It is absolutely expected, appropriate and simply humane to feel deeply all sorts of emotions when we failed at something, face trauma or other challenges. The point is that the resilient person is able to adapt to the difficulties. We do learn this skill over time.

When it comes to children, the first question is not how we teach them resilience but what environment we need to provide them with so they develop resilience naturally?   

In the first installment on resilience I quoted researchers, who explained that the resilience building goes through stages: basic and belonging.

The remaining three stages are: learning, copying and core-self. Please visit the boingboing website (https://www.boingboing.org.uk/resilient-therapy-background/) to find out more.

I wanted to leave you with a kind of a plan of list of activities which develop resilience. As a parent you probably already do a lot of these things anyway. Children learn by observing us so perhaps we could all benefit from taking on board some of these resilience tips.

Wishing you a great fun doing those

Dorota